Helping her adjust

You’ve found your perfect woman and her only dream is to make you happy. You’ve set the date of your wedding. Now she’s preparing to move to your country. What should you consider to help her adjust to life in a completely new cultural environment?

If your girl is a big town dweller then adjusting should go smoothly. She’ll quickly find her way around and get used to the western life style. But if she’s from a smaller town in the province, or from one of the underdeveloped former Soviet republics it may be a complete shock and take a while before she can feel at home in her new homeland.

Here are a few tips to consider:

- While waiting on the documents necessary for her move to your country, make sure she makes an effort to learn the language. Unless she’s got a PhD in Linguistics, she’ll inevitably stumble into a few communication problems due to the language barrier. Thus she should concentrate on basic listening and speaking practice, instead of polishing her English grammar to perfection.

- Find mixed couples in your neighborhood. Ask them what problems they had to face and how they dealt with them. Perhaps they could give a few helpful examples on things to do together or might have useful ideas on potential job placements for your future wife.

- When you’re finally together, be extra patient about things that seem obvious to you. She’s coming from a completely different cultural background; carefully correct the misconceptions she might have of your life and culture. For example, many women think that credit cards are inexhaustible source of wealth. You will have to explain to her that credit card is not a magic wand to be used nonchalantly. Or you can open for her an account or a debit card with set amount of money she can spend.

- Don’t lock her up at home. Communicative deprivation definitely doesn’t help a young family establish good grounds for mutual happiness. Take her out a lot and show her around the city. She needs to learn finding her way around without your supervision if you want her to feel at home there. She won’t miss her family and friends so badly if you help her make some new friends, attempt study or pursue a career.

At all times be prepared to listen. Help her speak out things that bother her or explain to her things that she can’t understand. Be there for her and she’ll adjust to her new life quickly and painlessly.

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